| 1. Longing |
Page 1 |
| 1) How We Are Made |
1 |
| 2) Basic Needs - Relationship and Impact |
4 |
| 3) Relationship |
7 |
| 4) Impact |
11 |
| 5) Longings |
14 |
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| 2. The Garden |
Page 18 |
| 1) God’s Plan |
18 |
| 2) What Went Wrong |
21 |
| 3) Universal Reasons For Sinning |
24 |
| 4) A Broken World |
28 |
| 5) The Basic Gospel Message |
32 |
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| 3. Rejection |
Page 36 |
| 1) Looking For What Was Lost |
36 |
| 2) Our Attempts To Meet Our Own Needs |
41 |
| 3) Seeking Control |
46 |
| 4) Over-Controllers And Under-Controllers |
51 |
| 5) Escaping Rejection |
55 |
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| 4. Facades |
Page 59 |
| 1) Why Build Facades |
59 |
| 2) Why Facades Do Not Work |
62 |
| 3) Self-Protection And God-Protection |
66 |
| 4) Looking For Fig Leaves |
69 |
| 5) God’s Boundaries Of Love |
73 |
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| 5. My World View |
Page 77 |
| 1) Basic Assumptions - Part I |
77 |
| 2) Basic Assumptions - Part II |
82 |
| 3) Goals And Desires |
87 |
| 4) Thinking, Doing, And Feeling |
91 |
| 5) Conscience |
95 |
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| 6. A Renewed Mind |
Page 99 |
| 1) Renewed Thinking |
99 |
| 2) Processing My Thinking - Part I |
104 |
| 3) Processing My Thinking - Part II |
107 |
| 4) Discernment - Part I |
110 |
| 5) Discernment - Part II |
113 |
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| 7. Facing My Losses |
Page 117 |
| 1) Pain Gets My Attention |
117 |
| 2) Discovering My Denial Systems |
121 |
| 3) Processing Pain |
125 |
| 4) Identifying My Losses |
129 |
| 5) Listening to My Losses |
133 |
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| 8. Accepting My Losses |
Page 138 |
| 1) Disillusionment |
138 |
| 2) Grieving: A Process of Letting Go |
142 |
| 3) Being With My Loss |
147 |
| 4) A Broken Heart |
151 |
| 5) Moving Into Reality |
153 |
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| 9. Our Human Condition |
Page 157 |
| 1) Personal Poverty |
157 |
| 2) We Dread Being Empty, Alone, and Dead |
160 |
| 3) Our Humanity |
164 |
| 4) Our Pattern Of Growth |
169 |
| 5) Freed To Be Myself |
172 |
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| 10. Forgiveness |
Page 176 |
| 1) Repentance |
176 |
| 2) Forgiveness - What It Is and Isn’t |
181 |
| 3) Moving Into Forgiveness |
185 |
| 4) Forgiveness And Freedom |
188 |
| 5) Through Death To Life |
192 |
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| 11. The Cross |
Page 197 |
| 1) Facing My Cross |
197 |
| 2) God Is Intimate With Pain |
202 |
| 3) The Cross In My Life |
205 |
| 4) The Heart Of The Cross |
208 |
| 5) Formed Into The Image Of Jesus |
211 |
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| 12. A New Song |
Page 215 |
| 1) Choosing Life |
215 |
| 2) Jesus Is Alive! |
219 |
| 3) Waiting On God |
222 |
| 4) New Life |
226 |
| 5) Singing A New Song |
230 |
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| Endnotes and Addendum |
Page 234 |